TL;DR
As an international student in the United States, I joined tech communities hoping to find internships, mentors, resources, and opportunities.
I found all of those things.
But I also found something I wasn't looking for: belonging.
From Rewriting the Code, Mentor Me Collective, CodePath, Girls Who Code events, Boba Talks, SheFi, local meetups, and later DEV Community, these spaces became much more than professional networks. They became places where I learned, grew, found support, and met people who continue to be part of my life even after moving back to India.
This article is about how communities shaped my journey, why I believe nobody builds a career alone, and why finding your people may be just as important as finding your next opportunity.
Table of Contents
- Why I Joined Tech Communities
- The Loneliness Nobody Talks About
- More Than Networking
- The Hidden Value of Community
- Leaving Didn't End It
- From Reading to Participating
- The Best Decision I Made
- I'd Love to Hear Your Story
Why I Joined Tech Communities
Some of the opportunities that changed my life came from communities.
But years later, those opportunities aren't what I remember most.
When I first joined tech communities, I had a practical goal: I wanted opportunities. Like many students and early-career professionals, I was looking for internships, mentors, advice, and ways to grow. Everyone told me networking was important, so I started showing up. I attended events, introduced myself to people, joined programs, and tried to learn from those who were further along in their journeys.
During my time in the United States, I became involved with communities like Rewriting the Code, Mentor Me Collective, CodePath, Girls Who Code events, Boba Talks, SheFi, local tech meetups, and various online groups.
At first, I treated them like resources. They were places where I could learn something new, discover opportunities, and hopefully move one step closer to my goals.
What I didn't realize was that they would eventually become something much bigger.
The Loneliness Nobody Talks About
Moving away from home teaches you things that no career advice article prepares you for.
You can be surrounded by people and still feel alone. You can be busy every day and still miss home. You can be doing everything "right" and still feel disconnected.
As an international student in the United States, there were moments when I missed home intensely. Not just the place itself, but the feeling, the familiarity, and the sense that you belonged somewhere without having to explain yourself.
What surprised me was that I started finding pieces of that feeling inside tech communities.
It wasn't because everyone had the same story. They didn't. But many people understood what it felt like to be figuring things out.
We were navigating uncertainty, trying new things, building careers, and learning who we wanted to become. The details were different for each of us, but the feeling was familiar.
For the first time, I realized that community wasn't only about professional growth. Sometimes it was simply about knowing that other people understood the challenges you were facing.
More Than Networking
The funny thing is that networking was never the part I remember most.
What stayed with me were the people: the mentor who took time to answer questions when they didn't have to, the community members who celebrated small wins, the conversations after events, the encouragement during difficult moments, and the people who remembered my name months later.
Nobody puts those things on a resume, yet they matter enormously.
When people talk about communities, they often focus on outcomes such as internships, jobs, referrals, and opportunities. Those things absolutely matter, and many communities helped me find them.
But they aren't the whole story.
The people behind those opportunities are what make communities special.
Looking back, the opportunities opened doors. The relationships made me want to keep walking through them.
The Hidden Value of Community
People often talk about communities in terms of what they can help you achieve.
And yes, communities can help you find internships, jobs, mentors, collaborators, and friends.
But I think the most valuable thing they offer is something harder to measure.
Perspective.
When you're struggling alone, every problem feels unique. Every setback feels personal. Every uncertainty feels like something only you are experiencing.
Inside a community, you begin to realize that's rarely true.
Someone else struggled with imposter syndrome, someone else felt lost, someone else changed careers, and someone else kept going anyway despite doubting themselves.
There is comfort in realizing you're not the only person trying to figure things out.
Sometimes the biggest gift a community gives you isn't an opportunity.
It's the reminder that you're not alone.
Leaving Didn't End It
Today, I'm back in India, yet some of the people who encouraged me when I was thousands of miles away from home are still part of my life. Many of the people I met during my journey in the United States now live in different cities, states, and even countries, but the connections remain. We still talk, celebrate each other's successes, share opportunities, and support one another despite the distance.
That's when I realized something important: a real community isn't defined by geography. It's defined by people.
The relationships didn't disappear when I boarded a flight. The support didn't stop when I changed time zones. If anything, those connections taught me that communities aren't simply places you go.
They're people you carry with you.
From Reading to Participating
After returning to India, I found another community through DEV.
For a long time, I was mostly a quiet observer. I read far more than I wrote. I'd browse articles, learn from discussions, and admire the people who seemed confident enough to share their thoughts publicly.
To be honest, I was intimidated. I worried that I didn't have enough experience, that my thoughts weren't interesting enough, or that I'd say something wrong. So I stayed on the sidelines for a while.
And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Not everyone participates in a community the same way. Sometimes showing up and reading is enough. Sometimes learning quietly is enough. Even today, I value silent readers because I've been one myself.
But over time, I started leaving comments. Then I started sharing thoughts. Then I started writing. Little by little, the community started feeling less like a place I visited and more like a place where I belonged.
As I became more involved, I started thinking about what I could contribute back. One thing kept coming back to me: throughout my own journey, I had missed opportunities simply because I found out about them too late. Sometimes I discovered internships after applications had already closed. Sometimes I heard about programs months after they happened. Sometimes I learned about scholarships only because someone happened to mention them in passing.
The opportunity itself was rarely the problem.
Access to information was.
Looking back, many of the opportunities that shaped my journey came from communities. A mentor forwarded an application. Someone shared a scholarship. Someone else posted a fellowship deadline at exactly the right moment. Those experiences made me realize that opportunities are often available, but they don't help much if people never hear about them.
That realization eventually became Dev Opportunity Radar, a series where I share internships, fellowships, scholarships, programs, and other opportunities that might help someone else on their journey.
When I published the first edition, I wasn't sure if anyone would find it useful. I just knew that if it helped even one person avoid missing an opportunity the way I had, it would be worth it.
Then something small happened that meant a lot to me. In the second edition, a community member submitted a Community Find that I was able to include. Another person reached out to tell me they had discovered and applied for an opportunity through the Radar.
Objectively, those are small moments. But to me, they meant everything because they showed that the series wasn't just a list of links anymore. It had actually helped someone.
That single message became all the motivation I needed to keep working on Edition 3. More importantly, it reminded me that community isn't always built through big gestures. Sometimes it's built one comment, one contribution, and one shared opportunity at a time.
The opportunities matter, but what stays with me most is something else entirely: a group of people who didn't have to help each other choosing to do so anyway.
In a world that can often feel disconnected, that's something I don't take for granted.
The Best Decision I Made
I've spent years learning programming languages, frameworks, libraries, and tools.
Some of them are no longer popular. Some have changed dramatically since I first learned them. Others have disappeared entirely.
The communities stayed.
Looking back, the best decision I made wasn't choosing a particular technology stack or learning a specific framework. It was deciding to show up. It was attending events even when I felt nervous, asking questions when I thought they might be obvious, volunteering when I wasn't sure I had enough experience, and slowly becoming part of something larger than myself.
When I first joined communities, I was looking for opportunities. I hoped to find internships, scholarships, fellowships, mentors, and career advice.
And I did.
But what I found was something even more valuable: belonging.
Years later, I don't remember every workshop I attended, every presentation I watched, or every event I signed up for. What I remember is how people made me feel. I remember feeling welcomed when I was new. I remember feeling encouraged when I doubted myself. I remember feeling supported during difficult moments and reminded that I wasn't figuring everything out alone.
Many of those relationships still exist today. Even after moving back to India, I stay connected with people I met through these communities. They're people I continue learning from, people whose successes I celebrate, and people who continue to inspire me through different stages of life and career.
Maybe that's the real value of community.
It's not just that it opens doors for us.
It's that, eventually, it gives us the chance to hold a door open for someone else.
If there's one thing I would tell anyone early in their journey, it's this:
Don't just learn technologies. Find your people.
Technologies change. Frameworks change. Job titles change. Sometimes even countries change.
But the people who believe in you, encourage you, and help you grow can stay with you for years.
That's what communities gave me.
And years later, across different countries, different chapters of life, and different stages of my career, joining them remains one of the best decisions I've ever made.
I'd Love to Hear Your Story
What community has shaped your journey?
Was it a meetup, an online forum, an open-source project, a nonprofit, a Discord server, or something else entirely?
I'd love to hear about the people and places that helped you find your place in tech.
π€ Let's Stay Connected
If you'd like to connect, share opportunities, or continue the conversation, feel free to reach out.
Top comments (36)
Being on DEV shaped me actually.
Before this, I had a portfolio, GitHub, LinkedIn, you name it. Just the bare bones in my opinion since that is what everyone is doing around me. However, although I put in my effort, it slowly went to waste. What I mean by this is "you can build a very good project, but no one will know about it".
DEV was on my mind since 2020, but didn't join to begin with since blogging wasn't my thing. Now, every time I write, it felt rewarding to the point where I continue doing it. It was a journey I did not anticipated.
Good work! :D
p.s I sent the Sloan Message since it was kind of hard to read due to many chunks feeling like bulletin points instead of sentences. I suggest adding images/formatting to make it readable. Content wise, it is good!!!
Thanks, Francis!
Really appreciate the feedback. Sorry about the formatting π . I went back and reworked it a bit so it flows better now.
And I can definitely relate to what you said about putting your work out there. That's something I'm still learning too.
Glad DEV has been such a rewarding experience for you as well π
Saw the improvement and it is much better! Thanks for changing it! :D
Thank you for pointing it out in the first place! The post is definitely better because of the feedback π
Oh Hema, this is such a lovely and heartwarming article! π₯Ή Thank you for sharing your story! π
Actually, our
dev.tojourneys are quite similar. I was also a silent reader first, too shy to even leave a comment. But seeing how supportive and inviting the community is, I got encouraged to add comments, and even started thinking that maybe someone would read what I have to say about technical writing and UX.This hits home especially hard:
It's just exactly as you say β even if we work on different stacks, from different locations and time zones, we all share the same doubts and uncertainties. Thank you for pointing this out; just knowing that we are all struggling our way to our goals makes the journey much more enjoyable π
Thank you so much, Klaudia π
Honestly, one thing I always admired about you was how welcoming you were in the comments. Even before I started writing, I would see you encouraging people and leaving thoughtful replies everywhere.
I think that was one of the things that made me feel comfortable enough to start commenting too. It showed me that communities grow because people take the time to make others feel welcome.
And it's funny how similar our journeys are. Going from silent readers to writers felt like a huge step at the time, but I'm glad we both took it.
Thank you for always being so supportive, both on my posts and across the community π
Aaaaw, this is so heartwarming! π₯Ή
Thank you for taking the courage and being part of this community π
This resonated a lot.
One thing I've noticed recently is that communities create a weird kind of compound interest. You might join because of a resource, an opportunity, or a piece of advice, but years later what you remember are the people.
Honestly, if someone had told me six months ago that some of the most meaningful parts of my tech journey would come from random comment sections and conversations with people I'd never met in person, I probably wouldn't have believed them π
Really enjoyed this read. The "find your people" message is one I think more developers need to hear.
Aryan, I love the way you described it as compound interest. That's such a good way to put it.
And I completely agree. If someone had told me a few years ago that random conversations, comments, and people I'd never met in person would end up being such a meaningful part of my journey, I probably wouldn't have believed it either π
Really appreciate you reading and sharing that.
This is such a good reminder that half of tech is pretending you're there for the networking and then accidentally collecting a bunch of humans you genuinely care about. The internships, referrals, and opportunities are great, but the real DLC is finding people who hype you up when you're spiraling over a rejection email at 2 AM. Also, "access to information was the problem" is painfully real. So many opportunities are basically hidden boss fights unless someone drops the secret map in the group chat. Great read.
"Hidden boss fights unless someone drops the secret map" is probably one of the best descriptions of opportunities I've heard.
That's honestly been my experience too. A lot of opportunities are out there, but finding them at the right time is often the hardest part.
And you're right about the people part. I definitely joined communities looking for opportunities, but looking back, the people I met along the way are probably what I'm most grateful for.
Thanks for reading π
Online hackathons.
For the first time, I collaborated with another person, whom I don't know at all.
It was the first time, I was discussing with another person about the project.
Working on a real project with seriousness.
It completely changed the way I think, the way I approach a project, an idea.
From that day to this day, I met a lot of good people!
Some became good friends. Some became good teammates.
Some became more than that!
That's awesome π
I think collaboration is something you don't fully appreciate until you experience it. Working with someone you've never met before and building something together teaches you so much beyond just the technical side.
And I completely agree, some of the best people we meet come from those unexpected experiences π
"Find your people, not just technologies" β that one sentence is going to sit with me for a while. Looking back at my own time here, the most valuable thing hasn't been the article stats, but the people who keep showing up in the comments. The Dev Opportunity Radar series is the best footnote to that whole "find your people" message. Appreciate you showing up β both in your writing and in this community. π
That means a lot π
I think you're right about the people part. The articles are great, but seeing familiar names in the comments and conversations is what makes a community feel like a community.
Really appreciate you reading and taking the time to comment π
That's exactly what I was hoping for. See you in the next comment section π
DEV Community is a wonderful place for developers to cooperate and improve their skills together. Letβs enjoy it and help make the community even better! π
Thank you π
I think that's what I've enjoyed most here too. Everyone is learning from each other, but people are also genuinely supportive along the way.
It's one of the reasons I've felt so comfortable being part of this community. Really happy to be here alongside all of you π
The line that stuck with me is "the opportunities opened doors, the relationships made me want to keep walking through them." That reframes something a lot of us get backwards. We optimize for the door and treat the people as a means to it, then wonder why the wins feel hollow.
Rob, I really appreciate that.
That line was one of my favorite parts to write because it captures something I didn't understand when I first started joining communities. Looking back, a lot of the opportunities mattered in the moment, but it's the people I met through them that stayed with me.
Thanks for reading and sharing that π
This is a beautiful, deeply grounding piece. In an industry that constantly pressures us to optimize for the next transactional milestoneβthe next framework, the next role, the next optimizationβitβs incredibly easy to lose sight of the fact that human connection is the only thing that actually sustains a long-term career.
As someone who took a very non-linear "long way around" into tech. I spent time in culinary school and working as a professional chef before pivoting into technical leadership and software architecture. Iβve learned this truth the hard way. The straightest line to an opportunity rarely yields the most fulfilling destination. The moments that mattered, the pivots that worked, and the resilience required to stay in this game all came down to the authentic communities and peers I built along the way, not the badges on a resume.
Your post reminded me so much of a reflective piece I recently shared on my own non-traditional journey, called The Long Way Around, where I wrestled with the exact themes of career pacing, perspective, and finding value beyond standard tech metrics.
Thank you for writing this. Itβs a vital reminder for early-career developers and senior leaders alike that our value isn't defined by our output, but by the community we foster.
Thank you, Ken. I really appreciate that.
I think that's exactly what I've been realizing lately. So much advice in tech focuses on the next milestone, but when I look back, it's the people and communities that made the biggest difference in my journey.
And honestly, I love hearing stories like yours. Going from culinary school and being a professional chef to software architecture is such a unique path, and I think it's a great reminder that there isn't one "correct" way into tech.
I'll definitely check out The Long Way Around. Thanks for sharing your perspective and for taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment.
The Dev Opportunity Radar part was really nice to read. You turned your own experience of missing opportunities into something that could help others avoid the same problem. That feels like a real example of what a good community should be.
That's actually one of my favorite things that's come out of the series. It started because I missed opportunities, but seeing people contribute Community Finds and share opportunities has made it feel like much more than just a list.
Really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment π
My pleasure! π
Some comments may only be visible to logged-in visitors. Sign in to view all comments.